Start here — the method
how it worksThe A·B·C of behavior
The simplest map of how habits change — set the stage, catch the try, make it count.
ReadRewards that work
Is a reward chart bribery? The extrinsic nudge, done right — and how to fade it.
ReadWho they're becoming
The intrinsic engine: how a coin becomes an identity that lasts after the rewards stop.
ReadThe bravery ladder
Graded steps for fear-driven avoidance — dark, drop-off, new things, test nerves.
ReadGuides by challenge
specific battlesFeelings & self-control
Handling meltdowns
Big feelings aren't defiance. Stay calm in the storm, build the calm before the next one.
ReadScared of the dark
A bravery ladder for bedtime fears — one small brave step at a time.
ReadSibling fights
Catch the kind moments, coach the hard ones.
Body & health
Refusing to eat
A calm, no-pressure plan: you decide what and when to serve, your child decides whether and how much. (Coins stay off the plate.)
ReadWon't sleep
Reward the routine, not the sleep — a calm, consistent wind-down.
Learning & focus
Homework battles
Break it down, reward the start and the effort — not the grade.
Prepping for tests
Spaced practice over cramming — reward the study sessions.
More guides are on the way — getting along, screens, money, and more.